我给我老婆的前任钱，我这样做对吗？

Nta. She won't let you discuss spending her money, but when it comes to your money, all of a sudden you're the asshole?

That's not how this works, OP's wife. Just because you relinquished your rights and don't want them, doesn't mean other people can't step up to help out. Sometimes it truly does take a village. Plus, it's not the kids fault their mother doesn't want them, they didn't ask to be born, all they can do is live their lives as best as they can.

Would your wife have thrown this large of a fit if she learned a complete stranger gave him that money? Or even, if you had given that money to a charity or something?

You did the right thing, and I wish there were more people like you out there who don't mind sharing their wealth with others when it's warranted. You're a good person in my book, OP

Listen....I grew up poor AF as well, and what your wife is PURPOSEFULLY doing to INNOCENT children is abusive. Period. They're children! I get that she signed away her rights....but I can't imagine being so cold hearted that you'd go so far as to financially torture them. That poor man crying is all you needed to know.

What you need to ask yourself is whether you REALLY want to be with someone who won't hesitate to abuse children and feel not only zero remorse, but justified in doing so. What I've learned is people like this will eventually turn this hatred towards you and kick you when you're down.

Please keep helping this poor man, and PLEASE start talking to a lawyer about how to best protect yourself and your assets in the event that you pursue a divorce. Because, frankly, the kind of person who would make a child suffer just because they can, is not only an inappropriate life partner, but they are vindictive in divorce proceedings and cannot be trusted.

NTA

OP, my biological mother was someone who cut myself off and my two other siblings. She chose to keep 37% of my dads inheritance when he died (my adoptive parents had to fight to even get us some money to raise us) and she was more interested in her friends or her affair partner than us.

For your wife’s children, they would really appreciate the help. It isn’t easy for kids to lose a parent and finding out they aren’t wanted by one of them. What you have done is amazing and you have helped Jake massively.

Your wife is an extremely selfish individual and she doesn’t care about the kids she gave birth to and how much they are struggling. Maybe consider your relationship with her as her true colours are showing. If you got extremely sick or ended up disabled do you really think she would stick around for you or move onto someone else? Just things to consider with staying with such a vile woman.

I see you are considering seeing Jake again. I am sure he appreciates someone to talk to as well. NTA OP.

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My wife divorced her now ex husband a few years ago and pays child support, she gave her rights to the kids. She pays abt 600 dollars.I just found out she sometimes “forgets”.i’m not a lawyer but, Three kids, plus the income at the time they divorced should be around 2,000 just by articles, but this was up to the court.

I am very wealthy and make a really generous amount of income.

My wife was complaining that he kept calling her I asked why and then it unfolded. I told her to just give him the money. My wife works a good job, again generous money. She said that it’s “her business” and she doesn’t want the kids and this money could go to her and I should stay out of it because I know nothing about it.

I looked at some papers and they live in a small apartment at a bad side of town. Hit close to home. I grew up with a single mom and four brothers shared a room my mom struggled a lot for us, she’s a wonderful women who broke her back for all four of us. Every decision was about the kids.

I tried to please or compromise with my wife, I tried to tell her I’ll pay for it, also tried seeing about this being a legal issue. I brought this up for three weeks straight and I got no answer, no compromise, no negotiation, just her saying it’s her money and she needs it for herself.

I found the guys number through some files,I messaged him and he was quite surprised to hear from me. After some back and forth, I got to the point and we met up at a coffee shop.

everything in his house is going up, rent and shit like that, he had to find a new job that doesn’t pay as much as before and before didn’t even pay much, he is struggling to buy enough groceries for the week for all the kids much less himself, the kids are growing out of clothes and he cannot afford new clothes right now, gas is going up tremendously and he is clearly struggling. He has three girls none of them have phone’s. They all share one bedroom. He can’t afford activities of anything.
you could just tell he was struggling. I’m not a crier but I teared up at this. He said that he wasn’t able to give his kids what they deserved and he’s ashamed of that.

After this, I offered the money he needed for the kids, after him saying the classic “I can’t accept that” ,I went with what I read in the articles. 2,000. May seem like a-lot but trust it’s not making a dent in my bank account.

I wrote a check he started balling, That was enough to make me tear up even more. I just thought this was the help my mom needed for all of us back then and opened up a-lot of past feelings.

I had 0 intention of hiding this. I was upfront and told my wife exactly what I did, and a hotel tab later, I presume i might have fucked up. She didn’t want to spend her money so I spent mine. I just can’t get my mind off the fact that these kids deserved more and this money can help,that I maybe selfishly don’t feel like I did anything wrong, but the amount of messages I’m getting says otherwise.

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