天啊，我新工作刚开始，但因为出差时找了妓女，现在感觉糟透了，浑身不自在。

I think you did the right thing OP.

Imagine this: you did hire a prostitute but didn't actually do anything with them, or say you did but you didn't. Only for the sake to become one of the inner circle. In an ideal world you continue your relationship and hopefully have a successful career path, but you have to walk on egg shells and conform to the ideals of "the pack". If you foster a relationship with this "pack", they will get to know your partner and you will know theirs. At that point you are at constant risk of them or their wives telling your partner that you hire a prostitute on the trips to Asia.

On the other hand, if you decline, as you did they might become spiteful and look for reasons to make your life hell so you'll quit and they find another candidate who is willing to "play ball". I'll take that over the alternative.

Quick note before I close out: you don't consume a prostitute, unless your name is Jeffrey Dahmer.

That's just my perspective. Values > Job

Not only did you do the right thing, but almost certainly your company probably has policies against those things. Many international/global companies have policies against paying for sex at all.

Additionally, there's a great chance that the girls were probably not willingly in the sex trade, or even adults. Check out https://www.justice.gov/criminal-ceos/extraterritorial-sexual-exploitation-children for details on how a US citizen can be prosecuted for having sex with trafficked children.

Check out https://www.whitehouse.gov/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/National-Action-Plan-to-Combat-Human-Trafficking.pdf for information about how the US is dealing with trafficking, there's great info on there.

The majority of sex workers are NOT doing it willingly. You took the right stand. It's reprehensible, and you were right. If your company does a lot of business overseas, I would be really, really surprised if they didn't have a policy in place against what happened. Had you partaken, even if you didn't do the deed, you could have been in violation of US law, and, if there is such a policy, that policy. You were smart to stay clear.

Now, having said that, you will likely catch a lot of crap from your coworkers if you take any action. If you do decide to blow the whistle, be prepared for it to be pure hell. Whistle blowers are never treated well, and they're often drummed out of the organization.

I admire your attitude, and I think you did the right thing. Tread lightly, though. Sacrificing yourself for your ethics is not as glorious as people think it might be. It makes your job worse, it makes your job hunt worse, and it generally damages the person's life, even though they were right. "No good deed goes unpunished."

You might consider finding a new job, but I have some bad news for you: this shit happens all the time. Especially in sales.

This situation can happen anywhere, do not feel bad because you did NOT get peer pressured to do something that you DID not wanted to participate.

Please do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with sex work, adults can do whatever they want, I do not demean anyone who is involved in it, their choice their life but so do you have your own choices.

Saying "no" can be difficult at times, but you made the right decision. I can relate to your experience as I've been in similar situations where I didn't want to participate in activities beyond having a few drinks and playing some games. I've even been labeled as the "boring" friend at stag parties these days. While I understand my friends' perspective, it's important for them to respect others' boundaries and moral codes.

I learnt this hard way, as I've grown older, I've realized that peer pressure can be harmful, and I regret any past instances where I have personally pressured my friends in my wild running and gunning days, where I was hoping festival to festival and consuming every drug I can take and forcing my friends to melt down with me, but there were few people that did not joined me and still stuck around despite my endless invitations. Anyway at the end, I learnt that some people just wish to be with me to enjoy my company and they do not expect anything further which is totally admirable. I was blind to see how immature I was, nowadays I only ask people JUST ONCE on anything if they want to join whether we go for lunch or grab a beer after work, I do not even ask WHY if they deny my request. Noo further explanation needed, as they must have their valid reasons and I move on.

It's important to prioritize your own values and boundaries, even if it means not fitting in with a certain group, if they really want you they will accept you anyway and you guys do not need to be friends too you can just keep them as acquaintances at work if they do not wish to understand your values.

I wouldn't say go to HR, simply move on, they know your ethics now.